So many changes …

This weekend was a particularly “revealing” one – no nothing like THAT!

I just realized a couple of things about myself and how old I actually am. I think the ” I’m actually 39 years old” reality finally kicked in during the latter part of the week .

Like I said on my birthday postI don’t act my age nor do I look like I’m 39. (Thanks for the great genes Mom and Dad ) But every year on my birthday , I start to think about my actual age, how fast my kids are growing up and that I’m really the age that I am.

I know I’m very blessed in all that I have experienced and have been given so far in my life and believe me I’m grateful for every second of it.

I also realized that some of my relationships are changing.

My kids are getting older and don’t need me as much any more. I don’t need to make school lunches, class parties, picking out clothes,etc for them anymore. I know that I will ALWAYS be their mom and they will also need me in their life. The conversations will them are more serious and more “adult -like”. Talking about boys, fears about the future, high school and college ,etc.

Also , my relationship with my husband is changing too. Please don’t read anything into this – I’m happily married and i love my husband dearly. Most of our married life has revolved around our daughters, the military and running our home. Now that our girls don’t need as much of our attention as they used to we find that we have lots more time to spend with each other. It’s not a bad thing just different. I find that its almost like getting to know each other again with someone I’ve known for over 15 years.

I know I’ll soon be heading into even more new territory as Kid 1 hits high school next year and Kid 2 begins puberty as well as my roles/identity will change as our family dynamic changes a bit. I’m embracing it and looking forward to it .

I learned a long time ago as a military spouse — that life is all about what you make it . I’ve got so many wonderful things to look forward to that I certainly can’t allow a little thing like age get me down.

Normal Teenage Stuff or Brain Injury Havoc?

I’m not usually one to complain on my blog (or in general ) but I’m crying UNCLE!

It’s been a rough couple of weeks around Casa de Tango which quite frankly I”m getting pretty sick and tired of.

Recently Kid1 is giving us all kinds of trouble. She’s always been a pretty good kid despite her special needs stuff. Usually it is physical or academic type of stuff which I can completely handle.

Lately not only is she giving a MAJOR attitude to us , but she is also doing it at school. It’s also so academic and organizational issues too. I can handle the academic stuff and she probably gets poor organizational skills from me LOL But the attitude at school – That’s where I draw the line.

I know something is going on with her but its hard to tell if its just normal teenage stuff or if its her Brain Injury stuff rearing its ugly head.

That’s the thing about Brain Injuries and most special needs parenting … you just never know until you figure out a way to manage it . There isn’t always a treatment, therapy , medication or test for it .

There is still so much they are learning about Brain Injuries especially in teens. It’s hard to figure out where the teenage angst starts and the special needs end. Obviously , this is not completely new territory for us and Kid1. We’ve done a lot of this “figure it out as you go ” over the last 13  years.

Would I change anything about being a special needs parent ? Honestly , sometimes yes! I would love to see my kid not singled out because of her disabilities but for her abilities. I would love for her not to have labels placed on her. I would love for her to do all the things she wants to do without hesitation.

The things I wouldn’t change are all the lessons that Kid1 has taught me over the years.  I just love her strength, tenacity and courage. The fact that she continued to push thru the roadblocks and showed those medical experts a thing or two . (She did this not once but twice)just simply amazes me.

I know we’ll figure out the right path for her , we always do.

I’m how old again ??

Picture courtesy of the best business partner ever, Bravo

 

Well I turned 39 today .. where did the time go ? It feels like just yesterday I was graduating from high school and that was 21 years ago.

Just looking back just 21 years ago …

  • I had just lost my best friend in the world
  • Was looking forward to a future career in medicine
  • I hadn’t met my husband yet
  • I didn’t have any kids and no immediate plans for it
  • There was no social media – twitter, Facebook , or blogging for that matter

Wow. that does make a girl feel her age.  Luckily for me , I don’t act my age .

My grandmother used to say that age was just a number. It’s not how old you are , its how you act and the quality of your life. I didn’t realize how right she was truly was until just a few years ago.

I’m pretty lucky and have been very blessed in my life. Yeah sure I’ve had some things happen that I could have done without.  Who hasn’t??

I’m even thankful for those because I believe that everything happens for a reason. I love my life and those who are a part of it.

So far the most important lesson I’ve learned  – is to be who you want to be and not what other perceive you to be.

Frankly my dear – I don’t give a damn!

As you can tell from the majority of my recipes and my Life ListI’m a big Paula fan. In fact when I go to visit Bravo in Georgia later this year , you can bet we’ll be visiting The Lady & Sons and partaking in some  Gooey Butter Cake

I’m a bit sick and tired about all this talk about Paula Deen having Diabetes. I mean really is there nothing better to discuss ? I don’t know maybe the war in Afghanistan , the economy or maybe the SOPA/PIPA?

First let me say — it sucks that she has  Diabetes. Diabetes is a serious disorder and I’m not making light of it at all.  To  Paula — all the best to you Sweetie. Stay strong, Carry On and you’ve got this! Keep being YOU!  “

I don’t get what the big deal is about her having Diabetes (well besides the fact that she has it ) Paula is the quintessential Southern Lady who happens to have been diagnosed with . She is sweet , loves her family  , cares for others in her community and damn the woman can create some awesome recipes.  She did what any good  woman would do in her situation (provide for her family) and just happened to make a wonderful living doing it not to mention the opportunities she has created for her boys and the rest of her family.

These days — She’s a chef paid to come up with amazing food and her recipes are the bomb! She cooks “southern style” — that’s just what we do in the South y’all . She was raised this way and there is not a DAMN thing wrong with it. She isn’t letting diabetes run her life but staying true to herself and she’s in control of it.

I too was raised on good ol’ Southern cooking with butter and even LARD (yes I said LARD)! Us southerners love flavor in our food, we love our spices  and we love it fried. You don’t like it ? Well bless your heart ! ;)

If you don’t like it , don’t make her recipes verbatim  , don’t buy her products and don’t watch her show. It’s all about moderation. Yes its that simple!

Signed the Louisiana drawl talking-  sweet tea drinking – REAL butter in my food – Southern girl! (who just happens to live in Iowa for the time being )

Recipe Tuesday – Mini Hamburgers

Mini Burgers

The time is year is brutal. It’s generally cold (at least here in the Midwest), the holidays are over and  warmer weather is at least 5 months away.

It’s the perfect time for comfort food  don’t you think? I can’t think of anything better than some mini-burgers , a great side dish and watching your favorite TV show!

Ingredients

  • 2 tablespoons grill seasoning,
  • 3 pounds ground meat
  • 1/2 cup Worcestershire sauce
  • 1/2 cup chopped parsley leaves
  • 24 mini burger rolls, such as small dinner rolls, split
  • 2 cups shredded lettuce
  • 3 tomatoes, cut into 1/4-inch slices
  • 1 small chopped red onion,
  • 1/2 cup steak sauce (highly recommended: A1)
  • 1/2 cup mustard

Directions

Coat a 9 by 12-inch rimmed baking sheet  with 1 tablespoon olive oil. Season the meat with Worcestershire sauce, 3 tablespoons grill seasoning and parsley. Spread meat into pan in 1/2-inch layer all the way to corners of pan. Coat the top of meat with 1 tablespoon olive oil and bake at 400 degrees F for 12 to 15 minutes . Let the meat sit for  5 minutes then cut into 24 square mini burgers.

Place burgers on mini roll bottoms and top with lettuce, tomato, red onion. Mix steak sauce with mustard and  bun tops, set in place.

Serve alongside french fries, Mac and Cheese  or my favorite Texas Fries!

Enjoy Y’all!

Operation Debt Snowball UPDATE

Last January, Mr. Fix It and I kicked off Operation Debt Snowball . It was our goal to start getting completely out of debt and being able to build our dream home.

We haven’t completely got to the stage that we wanted to but we did manage to put a big dent in our debt while raising both of our credit scores. I have to admit we didn’t follow Dave Ramsey’s plan to the letter , we used the parts that worked well for us/our lifestyle and applied the concepts.

By doing that , I’m proud to say that we have raised our mutual credit scores over 100+ points. 

Has it been easy ? No not really and it took some sacrifice on our part. Of course we had some setbacks (like completely blowing our budgets in November and December) but mistakes are there so you can learn from them right ?

So for this year – we aren’t planning on building our dream house (let’s save that for when we retire some place warm like Georgia or Tennessee ) but we have found a house here in North Iowa that comes pretty darn close to it! We’ll be working on that over the next several weeks, so stay tuned to the blog and on Facebook for pics and updates!

2012 goals

  1. Reduce small debt and credit cards balances by 50%
  2. Pay off at least 2 credit cards this year
  3. Build up (again) our Emergency Fund of $1000
  4. Buy the almost-our-dream-home and live off the “grid ” a bit
  5. Take a family vacation and not use the credit cards to pay for it

We have a lot of work ahead of us and that’s ok with me.  It will be worth it in the end.

Coming full circle …

I learned to cook from my Italian grandmother at the age of 6. She taught me so many amazing recipes and the stories that went along with each of them. I loved that time with my grandmother.

As I got to be a teenager and our house was so busy with family activities, sports, and various other reasons, I was expected to cook for the rest of my family.

When Mr. Fix it (aka the hubby) and I first got married , I hated cooking. He liked to cook so he did . I made basic dinners and obviously made sure the kids were always fed. The majority of the cooking responsiblities were left to my hubby or Burger King, McDonald’s or Chic-Fil-A.

Then one day I was bored (it was during his deployment ok ??) and decided to watch Rachel Ray on the Food Network and she was cooking with hot dogs! Well that certainly got my attention. I started watching her on a regular basis and then I discovered Paula Deen.  (cue the angelic choir ) I just adore her and her style of cooking. It is right up my southern girl alley!

Fast forward 2 years later , I just love to cook for my family and others . I don’t watch the Food Network just for fun anymore. I watch it to learn how to be a better cook and be inspired with new meal ideas.

Yes — My name is Tango and I’m a foodie! I actually buy good quality ingredients because it tastes better and use quality tools/gadgets. I even went so far as to ask for a KitchenAid mixer for Christmas this year. I didn’t get it but I will.

This new love  also inspired us to start eating better as a family . We don’t buy hardly any processed meals/food and most of the ingredients are fresh and so much better for you.  I even make my own whipped cream now.

I would love for us to go even more “off the grid” with fresh eggs, milk, etc. However , that will have to watit until we buy the farm that we want and go all “pioneer”! Stay tuned for that .. should be happening soon.

The best part is that I’m now teaching my girls how to cook and telling them the stories of the recipes that my grandmother told me. I’ve truly come full circle.

 

Recipe Tuesday : King Cake

One of my favorite New Orleans treats!

One of the best things about January (besides a certain blogger’s birthday) is that it is King Cake Season in New Orleans  – the kickoff to Mardi Gras.

For those that aren’t from New Orleans, here is a bit of info about King Cakes :

The King Cake is a New Orleans tradition that involves a pastry, a small plastic baby, and a party. The King Cake is baked with a small plastic baby hidden inside, the person who gets the slice with baby in it has to host the next party.

Now of course you can always order a King Cake off the web. As a native of New Orleans,  I HIGHLY STRONGLY recommend Haydel’s Bakery (they have traditional as well as new flavors)

Remember – No King Cake after Mardi Gras Day ! That would be sacrilege!

If you’re not in New Orleans and you don’t feel like mail-ordering, you can always make your own. Here’s an excellent traditional King Cake recipe …

(this recipe will make 2 cakes , cut in half if you just want to make 1)

 Ingredients

  • 1 (16-ounce) container sour cream
  • 1/3 cup sugar
  • 1/4 cup butter
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 2 (1/4-ounce) envelopes active dry yeast
  • 1/2 cup warm water
  • 1 tablespoon sugar
  • 2 large eggs
  • 6 to 6 1/2 cups bread flour* (can use all-purpose flour)
  • 1/3 cup butter, softened
  • 1/2 cup sugar
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
  • Purple-, green-, and gold-tinted sparkling sugar sprinklesIngredients for Glaze
  • 3 cups powdered sugar
  • 3 tablespoons butter, melted
  • 2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
  • 1/4 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 to 4 tablespoons milk

Directions

  1. Cook first 4 ingredients in a medium saucepan over low heat, stirring often, until butter melts. Set aside, and cool mixture to 100° to 110°.
  2. Stir together yeast, 1/2 cup warm water, and 1 tablespoon sugar in a 1-cup glass measuring cup; let stand 5 minutes.
  3. Beat sour cream mixture, yeast mixture, eggs, and 2 cups flour at medium speed with a  electric stand mixer until smooth. Reduce speed to low, and gradually add enough remaining flour (4 to 4 1/2 cups) until a soft dough forms.
  4. Turn dough out onto a lightly floured surface; knead until smooth and elastic (about 10 minutes). Place in a well-greased bowl, turning to grease top.
  5. Cover and let rise in a warm place (85°), free from drafts, 1 hour or until dough is doubled in bulk.
  6. Punch down dough, and divide in half. Roll each portion into a 22- x 12-inch rectangle. Spread 1/3 cup softened butter evenly on each rectangle, leaving a 1-inch border. Stir together 1/2 cup sugar and cinnamon, and sprinkle evenly over butter on each rectangle.
  7. Roll up each dough rectangle, jelly-roll fashion, starting at 1 long side. Place one dough roll, seam side down, on a lightly greased baking sheet. Bring ends of roll together to form an oval ring, moistening and pinching edges together to seal. Repeat with second dough roll.
  8. Cover and let rise in a warm place (85°), free from drafts, 20 to 30 minutes or until doubled in bulk. Don’t forget to place the plastic baby or pecan half in the dough (bottom side) prior to baking.
  9. Bake at 375° for 14 to 16 minutes or until golden.To make the Glaze – Stir together first 4 ingredients. Stir in 2 tablespoons milk, adding additional milk, 1 teaspoon at a time, until spreading consistency.
  10. Slightly cool cakes on pans on wire racks (about 10 minutes). Drizzle  Glaze evenly over warm cakes; sprinkle with colored sugars, alternating colors and forming bands. Let cool completely.

Remember – whoever gets the “Baby” has to host the next party!!!

Stop the insanity!

Is stress running your life ?

No this is not the commercial from the 80′s or 90′s! But we do need to stop the insanity that can create such havoc in our lives and it is our own fault.

It is normal to have an occasional bad day, and feel like you are going no where.  It can almost seem like the best solution is to simply give up.  That might make you feel better momentarily, but it can also leave you guilt-ridden and stressed out.

Taking the road less traveled and sticking with your  plan can seem very hard to do, but in the end, you will feel much better.

Many people are affected by anxiety.  You will not be as productive as you could be if you are constantly worried about something else in your life.  Some anxiety problems can only be helped with a doctor’s care. If your problems are minor, find out the cause of your anxiety and look for ways to remove the anxiety or at least ways to manage it.

Some people have a lack of focus.  It can be easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control when you have a lot work piling up on you.

So how do you stop the overwhelm? Simply, take back the control.  Look at the things you can fix right now and do those. Then make a list of the other things that need plans and/or goals.  Also look to delegating some of your work to others , outsource some of those projects, and even put some projects on the back burner until you have more time to focus on them.

The way we take care of our bodies is directly related to how we feel.  If you haven’t exercised in a long time or if you find yourself eating a lot of junk food, try to create a work-out schedule and healthy eating habits.

Each January, many people resolve or set goals to get organized.  I freely admit it — I’m one of these people.It’s a good thing to take a look at where you’ve been , where you’re headed and are you on the right path?

If you find yourself constantly looking for important phone numbers or pulling through the drive-through because you didn’t have time to buy groceries, maybe its time re-evaluate that area of your life first.  You need to find some sort of organization system that will work with your lifestyle and your personality as well.

Once you have achieved more balance within your personal life, you will notice a difference in other areas of your life as well.

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